Nigeria
*How I Married American Lady through Facebook- Kazbanj*
Published
5 years agoon
Kazbanj, a multimedia talented dude opens up on how he married an American Lady through Facebook friendship. Among other issues, he also speak on how to nurture and maintain lasting relationship in marriage. Enjoy.
IT’S BEEN 3YEARS AFTER, HOW DID YOU MEET THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE ?
KAZBANJ Yes ooo, just like yesterday 2017, from facebook Hi, to lifetime partners. It was like a joke when we started the conversation on Facebook. With sleepless nights, it was not an easy task for me, but from the first day when Facebook poped up her picture as a friend, I strongly knew that she is my wife.
When I checked her profile picture I said to myself ‘who be this queen again oooo lol?” , I quickly checked her pictures to see if I could find more beautiful pictures of her and to see where she came from. Unfortunately there was no location or information on her profile. I checked her mutual friends then found she was friends with an old Facebook girlfriend I have been asking out for a relationship .When I realized they were friends I was just confused about everything. Two days later I told myself this is my wife I have to go for her.
I began to like her pictures and some of her posts before sending her a friend request telling myself anything that would make her accept my friend request means she’s mine, and she did. There were no messages from her that’s when I sent a direct message to her messenger
I wrote “Hello Mrs. Tallman” I was trying to play a fast one on her to know if she was a married woman or not. I waited for days for her response to know my faith. Throughout those days I was always with my phone looking out for any notification of her response . It took about 3days before her response came in and guess what it was ? ‘Lolzz not ” Mrs” , ‘Miss Tallman’ . Immediately I got that message I screamed in the office , ‘ wow I have gotten a wife’ my colleague in the office was looking at me like this guy is really crazy big time. But to me I knew I had found my real love from that day. It’s just like in the bible when the woman with the issue of blood touched Jesus Christ and Jesus said someone touched me, I feel her touch. That’s how I felt that day.
That is how we started with introducing each other from that August 2017, till date. No day has gone by that we haven’t talked or facetime each other at least 6 times in a day. “Facebook brought us Together”.
TELL US ABOUT THE ADVENTURE SO FAR?
KAZBANJ The adventure has been a beautiful experience that will ever happen in my life, because i am involved with someone that understands what love is all about and cherish it.
I remember visiting different places in Nigeria together. There was a day on our way from Atican Beach to visit Badagry slave Trade and the Point of no return in same Badary my car was overheating and we were coming from Okun Ajah and had only gotten to isolo Badagry at 6:30. Pm. We still had like 4 hours or more before we get to Badagry if not more . I had to tell my wife ” babe this is Nigeria, we can’t get to Badagry today. We should look for a mechanic here to fix this car, lodge in an hotel around here and by tomorrow morning we would continue our journey to Badagry”.
On arriving Badagry the next day, we got our hotel room first to relax as we ordered for our favorite meals. Afterwards ,our first visit was the slave trade, where one of the tour guides explained the stories .The most exciting part of the journey was when we visited the ‘Point of no return ‘ . According to the guide’s explaination any slave that got to this point was gone for good because they crossed them with a flying boat to the other side of the ocean. When we were at the boat together my wife looked at me whispering to me “honey are you sure we have not been kidnapped to the SLAVE TRADE” . I laughed and laughed even the guide saw it on her face that she was scared. From the boat to the other side took us about 45 minutes. When we alighted it took us another 1hour 30minutes walk to get to the red sea where the ship will onboard the slaves . So far, we have visited different places in Nigeria, having wonderful moments together and it was all adventurous too.
POPULAR OPINION IS THAT NIGERIAN GUYS MARRY WHITE LADIES FOR SOCIAL AND FINANCIAL SECURITY. DOES THIS RING TRUE FOR YOU?
KAZBANJ I don’t believe in such, we do have many wealthy young men here that marry white ladies just because of love and their culture, some don’t even have any plans of travelling abroad and they take good care of their white women here in Nigeria.
I am an example. I married my wife just because of the character I perceived of her and she honors and respects me as a husband. These are some of the qualities I really want in a woman.
She really changed my perspective and what I heard about American women behaviour, so it’s not really about social or financial security. I do send money to my wife from Nigeria to America and that’s not because I am a millionaire or billionaire. I am just a normal average Nigerian man living and hustling here. I do it because she’s my wife and its my responsibility to take good care of her as a good husband, and I have not seriously thought of staying abroad for now, because I have my business doing well here in Nigeria.
YOU MENTIONED THAT SHE IS OVER THERE AND YOU ARE HERE IN NIGERIA, HOW DOES THIS DISTANCE IMPACT YOUR MARRIAGE?
KAZBANJ Well, we are still young and still have more years to live together. For now It really gives me more time to build my businesses . She still comes around often and we travel together for vacation to other countries and for our wedding Anniversary. With time we are going to decide where to base maybe in America or Nigeria, but we haven’t decided yet.
WHAT WOULD YOU SAY IS THE KEY INGREDIENT IN YOUR MARRIAGE?
KAZBANJ Understanding and communication is the key ingredient of our marriage. I married a woman who understands what marriage is all about, we do have disagreement sometimes because we’re coming from a different culture and background, but it doesn’t last more than an hour, no matter what the issues are we laugh over it. That’s the key ingredient.
If there’s another life to come again, I will still marry her over and over again.
WHAT CULTURE SHOCK EXPERIENCES DID YOU HAVE?
KAZBANJ The only culture shock experience I had so far was when my wife was coming to Nigeria for the first time, for our traditional marriage, non of her family members came with her. she came all alone, not that the family was never happy about the marriage. They were all in support of the marriage. They just saw it as something not really important since the two partners are happy. family members are happy too with the blessings, which is really different in my own culture, and this other thing that shocked me was that when ever we went out on a date she offers to pay the Bills. In Nigeria you know the opposite is the case . The guy is expected to pay for things we bought especially as a husband. She would just go ‘ babe let me pay for this you have been paying for everything’.
DID YOU ENVISAGE ANY KIND OF RESISTANCE FROM YOUR FAMILY?
KAZBANJ Well, not at all. When I told my mom that there is a lady I met on internet, a Christian from America, and the way I see our friendship it will lead to a marriage ,she said ‘OYINBO OMO AMERICA Kee? Laaduru gbogbo Obirin to waa ni Nigeria OYINBO le ri mu wa le’., I laughed. Meaning ‘ of all the ladies here in Nigeria, a White lady in America is who you decide to bring home, how will you be able to control her? The truth about it is that 90 percent of African mothers are afraid of their Son getting married to a white lady just because of what they do hear about American ladies lifestyle over there. The only thing that convinced my mom about my wife was when I told her she is a Christian and always pray for me when ever we’re on phone talking so when my mom heard all that she got a little convinced with that.
When she spoke with her on phone and video chat, she was pleased so she just said If that is what God wants for your life that will give you happiness go ahead and God will make everything go well but she told me to fast and pray about it. Mum was all about a person having the fear of God be you Mr President’ s daughter or an American Citizen. If you don’t have the fear of God in you or be a God lover there is no way you can be a good person and you are not acceptable that way because she’s a strong believer. She told me to pray about it because marriage is a blessing from God “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the lord”.
I use this opportunity to remember my MOM, Deaconess ESTHER MOJISOLA ADEFOLAMI. May her soul rest in perfect peace. Amen.
You may like
Nigeria
From Presidential Recognition in 2022 to Humanitarian Service in 2026: Mallam Musa Umar Yashi and the Unfinished Mission of Humanity
Published
2 days agoon
August 21, 2026
Contributed by Engr. Maidabino
Public Affairs Commentator
Four years after Nigeria recognised his humanitarian excellence, the mission continues through compassion, service and the restoration of human dignity.
As the world comes together once again to commemorate World Humanitarian Day 2026 (WHD 2026), the occasion provides an opportunity not only to honour humanitarian workers across the globe, but also to reflect on individuals whose lives have become synonymous with compassion, service and the defence of human dignity.
In moments like this, we are reminded that humanitarianism is not a seasonal gesture, but a lifelong commitment to people who need hope the most.
For Nigeria, and particularly for the North-East, one name that deserves to be remembered in this conversation is Malam Musa Umar Yashi, FCAI. He is a globally recognised humanitarian, philanthropist, seasoned administrator, respected statesman and one of the emerging leaders whose influence continues to be measured not merely by the offices he has occupied, but by the lives he has touched.

Malam Musa Umar Yashi, FCAI.
His story speaks to a leadership that prioritises people over protocol, and service over spectacle.
And there is a remarkable point of reference in his humanitarian journey. It was World Humanitarian Day 2022 (WHD 2022).
Four years ago, Malam Musa Umar Yashi received national recognition as Nigeria’s Humanitarian Person of the Year 2022, in a Presidential recognition associated with the 2022 World Humanitarian Day celebrations. Contemporary reports from that period recorded the recognition as a presidential choice and national acknowledgement of his humanitarian contribution.
That recognition is worth remembering today, not simply because of the prestige attached to an award, but because of what has happened since. The award did not mark the end of the journey. It became another chapter in it.
Four years later, as the global community marks World Humanitarian Day 2026, the story of Malam Musa Umar Yashi continues to evolve around the same fundamental principle that has defined his public life for decades: service to humanity.
Awards can sometimes be forgotten after the ceremonies are over. Plaques can gather dust. Titles can fade with time.
But a humanitarian legacy is different, because its true measure is found in what happens after the applause. For Malam Musa Umar Yashi, the significance of the 2022 recognition lies in the fact that it came as an acknowledgement of a humanitarian culture that was already deeply rooted in his life.
His commitment to vulnerable people did not begin with an appointment. It did not begin with a government office. It did not begin with a public title.
It evolved over decades through personal interventions, community support and a consistent willingness to stand with people whose circumstances often make them invisible to society. That is why the 2022 recognition can be viewed not merely as an award, but as a national affirmation of a philosophy of service that predated any office.
Today, four years after that national recognition, the humanitarian story continues. Across communities, humanitarian interventions associated with Malam Musa Umar Yashi have continued to reach vulnerable families, women, orphans, elderly persons, persons with disabilities and other people facing difficult circumstances.
The recent large-scale distribution of food items across Bauchi State and the North-East provides another illustration of this continuing commitment. Thousands of food items, alongside other consumable and non-consumable items, have been distributed to people and groups in need.
But the real story is not the items. The real story is the human being behind the need.
Behind every bag of food is a household that may be struggling to put a meal on the table. Behind every intervention is a mother trying to provide for her children.
Behind every package received by an elderly person is the reassurance that somebody still remembers. Behind every item given to an orphan is a message that vulnerability should never mean abandonment.
Behind every intervention reaching a person with disability is a reminder that inclusion must be demonstrated, not merely spoken about. This is where humanitarianism moves beyond statistics and becomes human.
Malam Musa Umar Yashi currently serves as Executive Director for Humanitarian Affairs at the North-East Development Commission, NEDC. The Commission’s records his long public-service background and identifies him in that capacity.
But his humanitarian identity should not be reduced to his current office, because that distinction is important.
There is the public servant who rose through the ranks of Nigeria’s civil service and developed a reputation as a seasoned administrator. There is the administrator whose experience brought him to senior national responsibilities.
And there is the humanitarian whose personal commitment to vulnerable Nigerians has continued alongside his professional journey. The convergence of these three dimensions has produced a distinctive leadership profile: administrative competence combined with a human face.
His career in public service has given him institutional experience, while his humanitarian activities have kept him connected to the realities faced by ordinary people. That combination is particularly significant in a region where humanitarian needs are complex and where recovery requires not only policies and institutions, but empathy, patience and an understanding of communities.
Long before his current role, Malam Musa Umar Yashi built a substantial career from Bauchi State civil service, and within the Federal Government of Nigeria’s civil service, rising through the ranks to the esteemed position of Director.
That journey matters because it demonstrates that his story is not built solely around philanthropy. He is also an administrator, a man shaped by public institutions, procedure, responsibility and years of national service.
His subsequent return to national service through humanitarian leadership therefore represents a continuation of public responsibility from another dimension. Where administration provides structure, humanitarianism provides purpose.
Where policy establishes direction, compassion reminds leadership of the people for whom those policies exist. And where institutions provide mechanisms, individuals such as Malam Musa Umar Yashi can help ensure that the human being remains at the centre.
Perhaps one of the most defining aspects of Malam Musa Umar Yashi’s public image is his reputation as a detribalized Nigerian. His humanitarian outlook is not confined to one ethnic group, one community or one social category.
His interventions have reached women, persons with disabilities, orphans, elderly people, vulnerable families, NGOs, community organisations and others whose needs cut across the boundaries of tribe, status and background.
This is important in contemporary Nigeria. At a time when public discourse can sometimes become narrowly defined by ethnicity, region or identity, humanitarian service provides another language: humanity.
The hungry person does not ask whether the food came from someone of the same tribe. The orphan does not ask about political affiliation before accepting a helping hand. The elderly do not measure compassion by geography.
Human suffering is universal. And so should be compassion. This is why the description of Malam Musa Umar Yashi as a detribalized Nigerian carries significance beyond mere praise. It speaks to a philosophy that places human dignity above sectional considerations.
Perhaps this is the most important connection between 2022 and 2026. 2022 was recognition. 2026 is continuity.
The Presidential recognition established that his humanitarian contribution had attracted national attention. The years that followed provide the opportunity to ask the more important question: Did the recognition change the commitment?
The evidence of continuing humanitarian interventions suggests a story of persistence rather than retreat. And that is what makes the journey compelling.
Some people become humanitarian icons because of one extraordinary intervention. Others build their humanitarian identity slowly, through years of repeated acts of service. Malam Musa Umar Yashi belongs to the second category. His story is one of continuity.
In today’s Nigeria, leadership is increasingly judged by visibility. But true humanitarian leadership is often measured differently.
It is measured by reach. By consistency. By inclusion. By the ability to identify people who might otherwise be overlooked. And ultimately, by the dignity restored to those who receive assistance.
That is why the humanitarian profile of Malam Musa Umar Yashi extends beyond his official designation. His supporters describe him as a philanthropist. His colleagues recognise him as a seasoned administrator.
Communities see him as a benefactor. And the humanitarian sector recognises the importance of people who remain willing to stand with vulnerable populations. These descriptions converge around one larger identity: a man whose public service is inseparable from his concern for humanity.
World Humanitarian Day 2026 comes at a difficult time globally. Humanitarian organisations continue to warn about the dangers confronting civilians and aid workers, while conflicts and humanitarian crises continue to place millions of people at risk.
In such an environment, the humanitarian ideal cannot remain an abstract concept. It has to be lived. It has to be demonstrated. It has to reach people. And it has to continue even when there are no cameras, ceremonies or awards.
That is perhaps the greatest lesson from the journey of Malam Musa Umar Yashi. In 2022, Nigeria recognised him. In 2026, his humanitarian journey continues to provide the context in which that recognition can be remembered.
The award belongs to history. The service belongs to the present. And the humanitarian mission belongs to the future.
For Malam Musa Umar Yashi, FCAI, the story therefore remains unfinished. Because humanitarianism is not a destination.
It is a responsibility that must be renewed every time another vulnerable person needs a helping hand, every time another family needs relief, and every time human dignity needs someone willing to stand in its defence.
And perhaps that is the most fitting way to remember the humanitarian on World Humanitarian Day 2026: not simply as the man Nigeria honoured in 2022, but as the humanitarian whose work continues to give meaning to that honour.
From recognition to responsibility. From responsibility to continuity. From continuity to legacy. That is the unfolding story of Malam Musa Umar Yashi, FCAI.
In conclusion, the Executive Director for Humanitarian Affairs at the North-East Development Commission, NEDC, Malam Musa Umar Yashi, FCAI, rose from humble beginnings in Yashi, Alkaleri Local Government Area of Bauchi State.
He remains a proud son of the North-East, a descendant of the old Northern Region, and a patriotic Nigerian whose humanitarian commitment has earned recognition beyond his immediate community and across the wider humanitarian space!
May his continued rise to stardom translate into immense benefits for humanity, for Nigeria, for Nigerians, and for the world at large.
Search
Featured
From Presidential Recognition in 2022 to Humanitarian Service in 2026: Mallam Musa Umar Yashi and the Unfinished Mission of Humanity
Contributed by Engr. Maidabino Public Affairs Commentator Four years after Nigeria recognised his humanitarian excellence, the mission continues through compassion,...
Ghanaian Culture Shines at Grand Unveiling of KALAJAH by African Dance Rhythms
African Dance Rhythms has introduced KALAJAH, a major traditional dance festival and cultural production, in a grand event held at...
#NewMusic: Naja Fairy “The Good Stuff” Prod.by JayScratch
Naja Fairy’s latest single, “The Good Stuff,” takes listeners on a nostalgic journey through love, heartbreak and healing. The song...
Gospel Musician Salome Nketia Announces Maiden Edition of ‘Dwell with Salome Nketia’
Seasoned gospel musician Salome Nketia has announced the maiden edition of her annual gospel event, “Dwell with Salome Nketia,” scheduled...
From Bawku to the Big Stage, Mic Yaaro Is Chasing His Music Dream
Abdul Majid, popularly known as Mic Yaaro, is an emerging rapper from Bawku in Ghana’s Upper East Region, steadily carving...
Who is Her Majesty, Dr. Josephine Diete-Spiff, Esq., JP, of the Twon Brass Kingdom
Her Royal Majesty, Queen Dr. Dame Evangelist Josephine Diete-Spiff, Esq., JP, the Queen of Twon Brass Kingdom in Bayelsa State,...
Mani Kay Graduates with an MSc in Communication and International Marketing from the University of Gold Coast
THE VOICE BEHIND THE MIC, THE MIND BEHIND THE MASTER’S: EMMANUEL KWEKU BUCKMAN’S JOURNEY TO AN MSc From radio broadcasting,...
UN-PAF PAYS COURTESY CALL ON THE NATIONAL CHIEF IMAM TO DISCUSS PEACE AND YOUTH EMPOWERMENT
A high-powered delegation from the United Nations Peace Ambassadors Foundation (UN-PAF) paid a courtesy call on His Eminence, the National...
Brother Ishmael Takes Home Male Vocalist of the Year Award at Ghana Music Awards USA
Ghanaian gospel musician based in the United States, Brother Ishmael, known in private life as Ishmael Mintah, has been crowned...
SourzeBoyy Releases New Single “Can’t Cool Down” featuring Kuami Lhord
Ghanaian rising act Sourze Boyy is back with a fresh new sound, teaming up with acclaimed Ghanaian artist Kuami Lhord...
From Presidential Recognition in 2022 to Humanitarian Service in 2026: Mallam Musa Umar Yashi and the Unfinished Mission of Humanity
Ghanaian Culture Shines at Grand Unveiling of KALAJAH by African Dance Rhythms
#NewMusic: Naja Fairy “The Good Stuff” Prod.by JayScratch
Gospel Musician Salome Nketia Announces Maiden Edition of ‘Dwell with Salome Nketia’
From Bawku to the Big Stage, Mic Yaaro Is Chasing His Music Dream
Ghana’s Most Powerful CEO Is Also Its Quietest, Operating In Silence
Mani Kay Graduates with an MSc in Communication and International Marketing from the University of Gold Coast
Meet the Face Behind Yonko TV: Nyameakoa Kwabena Mensah
Caleb Yeslord Plays Key Role in the Success of Ghana Comedy Awards 2026
Yonko TV Strengthens Its Position as a Leading Brand Promotion Platform in Ghana
Trending
-
Business2 weeks agoGhana’s Most Powerful CEO Is Also Its Quietest, Operating In Silence
-
Central Region7 days agoMani Kay Graduates with an MSc in Communication and International Marketing from the University of Gold Coast
-
Lifestyle3 weeks agoMeet the Face Behind Yonko TV: Nyameakoa Kwabena Mensah
-
Showbiz3 weeks agoCaleb Yeslord Plays Key Role in the Success of Ghana Comedy Awards 2026
-
Lifestyle3 weeks agoYonko TV Strengthens Its Position as a Leading Brand Promotion Platform in Ghana
-
Music2 weeks agoSourzeBoyy Releases New Single “Can’t Cool Down” featuring Kuami Lhord
-
Showbiz2 weeks agoBrother Ishmael Takes Home Male Vocalist of the Year Award at Ghana Music Awards USA
-
Nigeria7 days agoWho is Her Majesty, Dr. Josephine Diete-Spiff, Esq., JP, of the Twon Brass Kingdom
